yesterday i gave new hire orientation. it was a fun class - pretty chatty, but not obnoxious (for the most part).
one new senior director was overly chatty, however. he had a lot to say about many things, and i had to learn to cut him off...i was annoyed, so i assumed the class was, too. anyway, at the end of the day he came to chat with me some more (of course). he explained that he truly is a very shy man, but has had to learn to speak up. he's very uncomfortable when he does it, but has learned that it needs to happen in order to survive (and continue growing in his career...i mean, he's a sr manager).
i decided that several people who are very shy in the early years - when other kids are mean - overcompensate in the adult years.